Easier said than done?
For me, letting go of fear, is a process.
The first step is to become conscious of my fear. This is not always easy because fears are often hidden in blind spots. When I am not aware of my fears, I am not able to take any sort of action to overcome them.
How does one become aware? I've observed that it often happens when I am ready - and this can be at any moment, yet it's always the perfect moment. It also occurs in times of letting go or surrendering or perhaps in times of chaos. Once my fears are revealed, I am no longer in denial so I have two choices - I decide to confront the fear and overcome it or do nothing.
If I do nothing, the fear has a tendency to increase and there is a compound affect. Layers of emotion can bury deeper emotion, which is often fear. Fear can be observed through; communication, body language and in someone's energy field.
If I choose to challenge my fears, I am choosing freedom. Fear can be powerful. It can hold one prisoner and can act like an anchor. Some fears are overwhelming, others are easier to navigate. Take one bite at a time and choose one fear to begin with breaking it down into small steps.
The simple act of acknowledgment is powerful. Often the energy around the fear lessens just by acknowledging it. I am no longer in denial. It is now visible to me and I realise that I now have an opportunity to discover something about myself. The next powerful moment is making a choice: do I challenge my fears? or do I ignore them?
After I have become consciousness of my fears, I feel it is empowering (and I always feel better!) after writing them down or talking about them to someone I trust. This can take time so being compassionate towards yourself is essential. The moment where one decides to enquire deeper can vary greatly from one person to the next. Enquiring further often requires support from others, however, self-reflection is part of gaining more awareness of one's situation. Journalling is a great way to map your journey with this process. Here are some questions you may want to reflect on: What am I afraid of and why? Where did this fear come from? Where do I feel it in my body? What other emotions are coming up for me doing this exercise?
Choosing support is paramount. Being in authentic community is a nurturing environment that supports consciousness and self-awareness. Community can act as a mirror to what is going on inside of me and can expose blind spots, things that I may be avoiding or in denial of and brings it to the surface for me to look at. The listening quality is also incredibly healing especially when I feel vulnerable. Being in an honest, non-judgmental space is important, where I feel truly held and received. Over time, with this kind of support along with supporting the self, the fears grip can loosen and eventually diminish.
Therapeutic Support. When I have fears that are difficult, I seek counsel. I work through them and get to the source. In all cases, the fear I have experienced has also been a physical sensation or feeling. It can sit in different parts of the energy system and gets locked in the body at a cellular level. There are layers and different stages to dealing with deep-seated fear and it is always advantageous to get perspective and guidance.
Take action to release fear from the body. For example: If you have a fear of public speaking, enroll in a Toastmasters group and work towards overcoming the fear. You could even just start by speaking in front of a friend or family member then work up towards two people, then 3 then a small group, etc.
Usually it takes a while for the fear to move out of the body so keep going until you feel something shift inside you (this could be a release of emotion, eg. grief, anger or a feeling of relief).
Another imperative part is to celebrate overcoming your fears. A fire ceremony is a perfect way to release the energy; place your list of fears written on paper, into the flames and let them go.
Celebrating could be as simple as having a coffee with a friend. Keep it simple, reach out for support and remember to give yourself a lot of love, compassion and time.
Taking the leap opens doorways of discovery and incredible opportunities. Remember that Spirit has always got your back.
Blog written by Laura Naomi
© Laura Naomi 2018
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